I know it's a cliche, but it's true: breaking up is hard to do. That's why people almost always do the wrong thing when they are going through a breakup. They are hurt, angry and scared and they just react. And that is where the trouble starts.
If you want to get back with your love you need to follow a few simple tips. Following these tips won't always be easy but you'll have a much better chance of getting back together with your ex then you would if you don't follow them.
Even though it's tough to keep your distance that is exactly what you have to do. Even when you want to scream at them that they are being stupid and they're throwing away a wonderful relationship you need to hold that in.
You need to give your ex time to miss you. If you make them angry by pursuing them relentlessly you will lose them forever. And this is exactly what most people do.
2) Don't spend too much time worrying about them, concentrate on you.
Now would be a great time for you to take stock of you. Decide what traits you have that might have contributed to the relationship falling apart and try to fix them.
Remember, you aren't fixing them to get your ex back, you are fixing them because they need to be fixed and you want to be the best person you can be.
No matter what happens with your ex, whether you get back together with them or not, if you take this important step now you will grow as a person and that can only make your future relationships much better.
Don't do this right away even though that's what you'll want to do. You both need time to let things settle down otherwise any conversation you have is likely to end up with crying, or screaming, or both.
Once a little time has gone by you both can realize that you miss each other and hopefully have an honest conversation about what each of you is feeling and where you'd like to go from that point on.
Just remember this isn't about proving that you're right and they're wrong. It's about trying to honestly evaluate and understand each other's point of view. That is the only way you can build a solid relationship.
Following these 3 seemingly simple steps can really help you get back your love. It's not going to be easy but it's the only way to reconcile and build something strong for the future.
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