How Do I Save My Relationship - Very Carefully

Are you asking the question "How do I save my relationship?" This is a very common question from people seeking relationship advice. Breaking up is hard and you want to know what to do to save your relationship before it is too late. You feel helpless, but you want to do something about it. Fortunately there are quite a few steps you can take to save your relationship, so read on.

One thing I always tell people is a good relationship starts with you. It may seem odd but most people look to their partner when they are trying to find or fix a relationship. If you start with you, you'll have a much better chance of having the kind of relationship we all dream of.

You see that nothing dooms a relationship, or dooms you to choosing the wrong person, more than being insecure. True, we all have insecurities but some of us have more, or deeper ones, than others.

If you want to find someone who is confidant and willing and able to treat their partner with love, respect and friendship than you have to be someone who is confidant and can treat your partner with love respect and friendship.

If you are insecure you will only attract insecure people to you. In this scenario it usually goes a little like this: you have a woman who doesn't feel really good about herself. Maybe she's a little overweight or maybe she's beautiful but has just had too many people undermine her sense of self so she doesn't believe it.

What kind of man do you think she will attract? A confidant successful man or an insecure buffoon who always acts like he has something to prove? You guessed it, the buffoon.

That's because a confidant man would get bored with her neediness and insecurities. Those aren't attractive traits. An insecure man, on the other hand, would love to have a beautiful woman on his arm that he can boss around. It makes him feel like a big man, he can brag to his friends, etc.

So if you want to have someone worthwhile in your life, you have to become someone confidant enough to 'demand' that. It might even take some counseling but it's worth investing the time in yourself.

Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. My first marriage was to an insecure man like I described above. I was unsure of myself and he took every opportunity he could find to reinforce my insecurities.

After that disaster ended I took some time for me. I became the woman I always wanted to be. And of course, I still have some insecurities, but they're minor and they don't rule who I am. Now I'm in a fantastic relationship and I can honestly say that my spouse truly is my best friend and always has my back.

So if you're asking: "how do I save my relationship?" you may just find that you have to save yourself first.

I have good news for you. There is a whole ebook devoted to this subject. Have a look at The Magic Of Making Up. Remember that the tips on how to make up will also help you to prevent a breakup.

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A Solid Plan To Win Back An Ex

Breakups are hard and nobody likes going through one. A breakup causes stress, it does not matter if one of you cannot stand the other anymore. When you are the one that still have feelings for your ex it is even harder. So, of course you want to win your ex back. Problem is, you do not know how to go about it as it is not something we are taught anywhere, EXCEPT the ebook The Magic Of Making Up. In this ebook you will find proven methods to handle it.

To help you with your start, here are a few good tips.

Before you make any moves to win back an ex, it is absolutely necessary that you calm down and relax. There is no questions that emotions run high during a break up, and for a while after it has happened. However, if you let your emotions get the better of you, then you will destroy any chances you have of getting your ex back. You need to be able to make a plan and follow it. You have to be able to commit to it, think logically, and remain focused.

The best way to calm down is to give yourself time away from your recent drama. How much time you need is up to you, but you should be able to feel a definite difference in your state of mind. The people who don't take this time before trying to win back an ex often find that they are too emotional and that their ex pulls further away. Obviously this is counterproductive to what you are trying to do.

Take care of yourself during this time. Your goal is to win back an ex, and that means you need to be the type of person your ex would like to be with. Now, that doesn't mean you should pretend to be somebody you're not. But it does mean that you should be the best you that you can possibly be. And the only way to do that us by taking care of yourself; mentally and physically.

If you feel your physical appearance is not what it should be, make work of it. Get some home exercise equipment such as a Stamina Spacemate Folding Stepper that is cheap, takes up very little space and get in shape!
The other thing to do during this time is to reflect on what went wrong. Don't beat yourself up over what went wrong, though. The idea here is to identify the mistakes that were made so you will be able to correct them. You and your ex are both human, and you both made mistakes. The more of these serious mistakes that you can identify and fix, the better.

Once you have had enough time (and your ex has had enough time, too) it's time to contact your ex. If you want to win back an ex then you have to take things slowly at first. Start with simple, low-key conversations that stay positive. Eventually you will be at a point where you discuss the past and your plan for correcting those mistakes. Once you do that, the next natural step will be to get back together.

For more expert advice have a look at: The Magic Of Making Up!