The first thing I always ask someone when they ask this question is what makes you so sure that he doesn't still love you? Relationships can be confusing. We are never as vulnerable as we are when we let another person in. That person then has the ability to really hurt us. Sometimes we accidentally sabotage our own relationships just because we are so afraid of getting hurt that we unconsciously decide we should end it before it goes any further.
Even if that's not what is going on with you, I repeat, what makes you think he doesn't still love you? It's easy to misinterpret the signs especially if your guy suddenly seems a little cool or distant. Sure, this could be a sign that he's ready to bolt, but it could also be a sign that you are sending out some signals of your own and he is responding to them. Confusing, I know. But either one of you can be picking up on the 'vibes' of the other, it happens all the time.
So, let's say, that you were having a rough time about something, it doesn't really matter what, and you weren't as happy as you usually are. Your guy will have picked up on those vibes. If you were unable, or unwilling, to let him know what was going on with you, he might have interpreted it as you weren't in love with him anymore. What you are witnessing from him might just be a 'reflection' of what he picked up from you.
I hope that makes sense. It's a tough concept to convey in an article. One of the best ways you can find out if this is the case is to sit down, calmly, and talk to him. Ask him if there is anything wrong (you could start out by explaining what's been going on with you, assuming there has been something going on with you).
If you don't think that is the problem, is it possible that the two of you have just grown apart and have started to take each other for granted? Are the two of you so busy and stressed with your lives that you have 'forgotten' to show the other that you love them?
You know, showing your guy that you love him can be as simple as giving his back a rub when you pass by him in the kitchen. Most of us, men or women, love these little signs of affection. In many cases they can mean as much, or more, than the big grandiose displays of flowers, candy and lingerie. Such a simple act, done almost without thinking about it, lets your guy know that you care about him and that can go a long way to calming any fears he may be having about the relationship.
So, before you go around asking: can I make him fall in love with me again, you may just want to make sure that he really has fallen out of love with you. You may be pleasantly surprised at what you find out.
Never jump to conclusions. Make sure of what is really going on before you take drastic action. Your guy may still be completely in to you and you are simply sending out or receiving the wrong signals. For more advice have a look at The Magic Of Making Up.
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