Thursday, March 17, 2011

Best Way Of Fixing A Broken Relationship Tips

There is good as well as bad news for fixing a broken relationship. It is true that even if the relationship is completely screwed up it can be fixed, that is the good new. If both parties are willing to give a 100% in the effort of fixing a relationship, if you both of you are completely committed you can make it work. You have to be aware of the fact that it will take time and effort. You have to be willing to face your own shortcoming and be mature about it. If this is the case, there is a very good chance that the broken relationship can be fixed.

The bad news is that if the problems are serious and /or both of you aren't willing to work hard and find a solution; the odds of fixing a broken relationship go down significantly. It's not impossible, but so much more difficult.

1. So step one would be to honestly asses where you and your partner are:

Are both of you mature enough to face up to the issues and stick with it long enough to find a solution? If so, go on to step two. If not, ask yourself why you want to save the relationship. People will usually answer that with "I love them" but sometimes that just isn't enough.

If you try single handedly to save your relationship, it's very easy to fall into the trap of becoming a door mat to your partner. If they are so selfish that they won't work with you to save the relationship, it's almost a guarantee that they will try to take advantage of all the hard work you are doing.

2. Step two would be to figure out what is going on:

What are the problems and issues that the two of you are dealing with? What needs to be done to fix them? Do the two of you just seem to be drifting apart? If so, why? What has changed? Do you now have kids and find it harder to really connect with each other and care for the kids? Has one of you taken on a new more stress filled job and it's affecting your home life?

Once you identify what the issues are you have a much better chance of dealing with them in an effective way. Don't let the clutter of day to day life confuse you. That's not the real problem in most cases. Figure out the real bottom line problems and than work together on a solution.

Sometimes finding someone to help you sort it all out can work wonders. Finding a therapist or counselor to help you figure it all out can be a great help. If nothing else, a counselor can act as a sort of referee so the two of you don't get too upset and start fighting. If you do, nothing will ever get worked out.

Figure out what is really broken in your relationship. You need to know this if you are thinking of fixing a broken relationship. It is not possible to fix something if you do not know what is wrong with it, the same goes for a relationship. You have to pinpoint the problems and work at solving them. If you do the is a good chance of fixing a broken relationship.

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